Thursday, February 14, 2013

14 Years...How We've Made It Work

I was astounded to hear what the divorce rate is for parents of special needs children. Here it states that up to 85-90 percent of marriages land in divorce when faced with the stress of a child with a disability!  Where does that leave us? Let's face it, marriage is hard enough with healthy children and the day to day responsibilities. When I look at this photo, what comes to mind is a couple with many hopes and dreams. Those dreams were of course what most couples have, which is a life of love, prosperity and happy healthy children. 
But those dreams were broken after we had one miscarriage after another. Then shattered as we faced the unimaginable when the hospital thought that our son would have a disorder incompatible with life. Then we came home with very difficult responsibilities involving a medically fragile child and nurses coming in and out of our house. Let's just say our "alone time" has been less than ideal. Add in the fact that there are always outside stressers that include family members, bills and trying to make a normal life for our daughter. 

Somehow we have made it work though. My husband and I have a strange sense of humor and I think that has helped us survive the hardest of times. We also work as a team and know that this life would be impossible without each other. Most of all, we trust God in knowing that staying married is his plan and not the alternative. It hasn't been easy, but life would most definitely be harder without each other. 

"So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Matthew 19:6


The VW's said...

Happy Anniversary! Your lasting marriage, despite all your trials, is a testament to both of you! May you be blessed with many more happy, love-filled years!

April said...

You are both amazing!!! Sending lots of love!